Everybody feels angry at one time or another, usually this will be caused by a particular situation or event and isn’t a frequent or common occurrence.
Sometimes however, people can constantly feel on edge and close to losing their temper. This can become a problem to both the person feeling this way and also to others in their life.
Anger can be displayed in a lot of different ways, you might:
- Shout at people
- Hit or physically hurt others or yourself
- Smash or break things
- Throw things
- Lose control
If you’re feeling angry you might start to act differently in other parts of your life, such as:
- Feeling sad or low
- Getting yourself into dangerous situations
- Drinking too much alcohol
- Taking drugs
- Withdraw from friends and family and stop speaking to people
- Anger can make you feel lots of different physical symptoms, you might not even realise that what you’re feeling is anger. Some of the ways you might feel are:
- Heart beats very fast
- Your breathing also speeds up
- You might clench your fists and tense your body
- You might fidget and find it hard to stay still
These symptoms are down to your body releasing a hormone called adrenaline. This hormone prepares the body for a ‘fight or flight’ reaction to the current situation.
Learning to recognise the above symptoms as you starting to get worked up and be close to ‘losing it’ can be really useful as you then have a chance to calm yourself and the situation down.
If you are feeling angry a lot or losing your temper very easily you might not want to see or talk to anybody, but letting someone know how you’re feeling will really help. They might be able to help you understand why you are feeling like this and then show you ways to avoid getting so angry.
Some good people to talk to might be a parent/carer, friends, a teacher, youth worker or somebody else who you feel you can trust and talk to.
As well as telling somebody about how you’re feeling, there are other ways that might help you to relax, feel calmer and so reduce how stressed and angry you get. Keeping a diary of when you feel very angry and when you feel calmer might help you to notice what sorts of things help your mood. Try to do more of the things that help you de-stress and feel calmer, these might be:
- Going for a walk
- Listening to music
- Playing computer games
- Reading a book
- Seeing friends
- Taking a bath
Going to see your GP will also really help as they will be able to suggest other things to try and reduce your anger. One thing your doctor may do is refer you for counselling. The counsellor you see will speak to you about how you’re feeling and also your behaviour. They will then be able to suggest things you could try to reduce your anger and also tips and tricks to use when you feel yourself starting to get angry or worked up.
If you are a child or young person, concerned about your own mental health or that of a friend and need somebody to talk to, people at Childline will be available at any time on 0800 11 11.